Initially when I started tweeting, I was dating my Marine and I felt like I was flailing in the information and acronyms he was spitting at me. Frankly, I think a lot of us feel that way. My Marine still speaks Marine not English. So, I wanted to have a support system or a way of learning how to deal with all of the changes from being a civilian to a Marine girlfriend.
I'm sure we've all learned some tid-bits along the way - whether it's been through blogging or meeting other MilGirls or watching documentaries, etc. I think it's a great opportunity for us who have lived through it to pass it along as useful advice for MilGirlfriends and MilFiancees who aren't yet in the DEERS system (don't know what DEERS is? It's the Defense Enrollment Eligibility Reporting System, basically a way of saying that you are officially attached to your service member).
But all technicality aside, when you're not married to your service member, it sometimes feel like a whole new foreign world. I hate not knowing so I do research. The more you know, the better you're able to make decisions, right? What if you're thinking about marrying your soldier? How about wanting to learn more about the Airforce? How about how to get through a deployment with your sailor? Or did you know that your Marine could get orders to go on a 2 year unaccompanied tour (meaning he gets stationed somewhere like Kuwait, Korea, Japan, MSG Duty... without YOU!)?
Things I'd like to know are (just as starters):
- What are the differences between civilian life and being a MilGirl?
- Did you know your man before he was a Service Member? How was getting through basic training?
- How do you feel about him being in the military?
- What attracted you to your Service Member? Was it the SEXY uniform?
- Does the SEXY uniform make up for the
crap you put up withsacrifices you make?
- Have your plans been messed up because of the military? Tell me your horror stories!
- How does your family feel about you dating a Service Member? How do they feel about you MARRYING a Service Member?
- Does it motivate you as a couple to get married sooner if he is slated to leave (have orders to get stationed elsewhere, getting ready to deploy)? Did you elope?
So, we're all here to learn or offer advice. I'm here for both. I'd love to interview you if you don't mind me picking your brain!
Also, if you're a MilGirlfriend or MilFiancee, what do YOU want to know?
What do you think about this idea? Helpful? Dumb and not useful?
EDITED: Leave a comment if you think I should add any questions or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org (dateamarine [at] gmail [dot] com) if you would like to be interviewed!